Use when — the verbal offer just landed and you can feel the urge to say yes right now.
Get swept up and accept in the same call, and you’ve committed before valuing the equity, reading the clawbacks, or comparing it to anything. Show real enthusiasm — then ask for the terms in writing and a few days to decide. Employers expect it.
- When the number lands, show real enthusiasm — then ask for the full offer in writing.
- Ask for a reasonable window — a few business days is standard.
- Use it to normalise total comp, read the contract, and check comps before you respond.
The ruleAsking for a few days to evaluate a real offer doesn’t lose it — an employer who yanks it because you asked for 48 hours just told you who they are.
AvoidAccepting or countering on the spot, before you’ve valued the equity, read the clawbacks, or compared it to anything.
✓Done when — You have the offer in writing and an agreed decision date — and you used the time to value the package, not just sit on it.
Alison Green, “Ask a Manager”; Malhotra, “15 Rules” (HBR, 2014) — think through the timing.